tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-459873339663141424.post7409920675212965073..comments2023-11-30T07:38:47.742-08:00Comments on William Quincy Belle: The War of the DivorcéesWilliam Quincy Bellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14337095766556949027noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-459873339663141424.post-85222824706858439142012-05-16T22:10:57.623-07:002012-05-16T22:10:57.623-07:00As someone who apparently reads the same divorce b...As someone who apparently reads the same divorce blogs that you do, I read this with some interest. The line that stood out to me was this:<br /><br />Annie's interesting confession, "I also had a part in perpetuating the high-conflict nature of my own divorce."<br /><br />I can only dream of Molly's peaceful divorce; I don't see my ex as bringing the same things to the table as her ex apparently does, and it does take two to make that happen. But Annie's line is telling (and I think it's incredibly brave of her to say it publicly), and I don't want to make things worse on myself, or my daughter, by adding to the conflict.<br /><br />My divorce isn't over yet, but I hold tight to the idea that if I don't want it to be high conflict then I'm going to have to avoid adding fuel to the conflict fire. I'm getting divorced because I don't want to live in constant conflict, and because I want to model something better than that to my daughter. I don't want to carry the kind of anger. I can't control what my ex does (and some of what he does makes me angry, no doubt about that)...but I am trying to control what I do. Easier said than done some days, but I really am hoping to end up ahead, as you say. I hope I can hold true to that, and that it works.PollyAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17505808535470419363noreply@blogger.com