Saturday, 26 June 2021

Esther Perel: How to Overcome Male Performance Anxiety

Published on July 9, 2017 by Esther Perel
YouTube: How to Overcome Male Performance Anxiety - Esther Perel (5:53)
“When I’m not interested in sex, it makes me feel like I’m not a man. In fact, my wife wants it more than me so I came up with the excuse of chronic back pain. I think it’s easier for her to accept. What’s wrong with me?” - David, Clifton, New Jersey

Men are under pressure in life, and in the bedroom, to be untiring, masterful and dominant. It’s assumed men are always up for sex and women’s interest is much less, and subjective.

It’s time we stop this oversimplification of men and start debunking some of our most dear assumptions about men.


Wikipedia: Esther Perel
Esther Perel (born 1958) is a Belgian psychotherapist notable for exploring the tension between the need for security (love, belonging and closeness) and the need for freedom (erotic desire, adventure and distance) in human relationships.

official web site: Esther Perel

my blog: Esther Perel: Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved - Aug 4/2015

my blog: Esther Perel: Is this woman on to something? - Mar 12/2013


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Saturday, 12 June 2021

Pain: Men vs Women

From the Facebook feed of one Stephen Kroeger:

I mowed the lawn today, and after doing so, I sat down and had a cold beer.

The day was really quite beautiful, and the drink facilitated some deep thinking.

My wife walked by and asked me what I was doing, and I said, "Nothing."

The reason I said "nothing" instead of saying "just thinking" is because she then would have asked, "About what?"

At that point I would have had to explain that men are deep thinkers about various topics, which would lead to other questions.

Finally I pondered an age old question: Is giving birth more painful than getting kicked in the nuts?

Women always maintain that giving birth is way more painful than a guy getting kicked in the nuts, but how could they know?

Well, after another beer, and some more heavy deductive thinking, I have come up with an answer to that question.

Getting kicked in the nuts is more painful than having a baby, and even though I obviously couldn't really know, here is the reason for my conclusion:

A year or so after giving birth, a woman will often say, "It might be nice to have another child."

But you never hear a guy say, "You know, I think I would like another kick in the nuts."

I rest my case.

Time for another beer.  Then maybe a nap.


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Thursday, 25 March 2021

The Beatles: Being For The Benefit of Mr. Kite

A random video pops up in my YouTube feed, "Lennon's Poster". What's that? A gentleman by the name of Peter Dean set out to recreate the poster which inspired John Lennon to write this song. It was a lovely trip down memory lane, and I learned behind the scenes details of this iconic piece of music. (The video Lennon's Poster is at the end.)

Published on Jun 19, 2018 by The Beatles
YouTube: Being For The Benefit Of Mr. Kite! (Remastered 2009) (2:37)

For the benefit of Mr. Kite,
There will be a show tonight
On trampoline.

The Hendersons will all be there.
Late of Pablo Fanque's Fair.
What a scene!

Over men and horses, hoops and garters,
Lastly through a hogshead of real fire!
In this way
Mr. K.
Will challenge the world!

The celebrated Mr. K.
Performs his feat on Saturday
At Bishopsgate.

The Hendersons will dance and sing
As Mr. Kite flies through the ring.
Don't be late!

Messrs. K. and H. assure the public
Their production will be second to none.
And of course
Henry The Horse
Dances the waltz!

The band begins at ten to six,
When Mr. K. performs his tricks
Without a sound.

And Mr. H. will demonstrate
Ten summersets he'll undertake
On solid ground.

Having been some days in preparation,
A splendid time is guaranteed for all.
And tonight
Mr. Kite
Is topping the bill!


Wikipedia: Being for the Benefit of Mr. Kite!
"Being for the Benefit of Mr. Kite!" is a song recorded by the English rock band the Beatles for their 1967 album Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band. It was written and composed primarily by John Lennon and credited to Lennon–McCartney.

Most of the lyrics came from a 19th-century circus poster for Pablo Fanque's Circus Royal appearance at Rochdale. It was one of three songs from the Sgt. Pepper album that was banned from playing on the BBC, supposedly because the phrase "Henry the Horse" combined two words that were individually known as slang for heroin. Lennon denied that the song had anything to do with heroin.

Published on Mar 26, 2019 by The HollyHobs
YouTube: How The Beatles Made "Being For The Benefit Of Mr. Kite" (5:45)

Published on Oct 15, 2012 by Make Productions
YouTube: Lennon's Poster (3:25)
A short film following the recreation of the Pablo Fanque circus poster that inspired John Lennon to write 'Being for the Benefit of Mr. Kite' for the Beatles album 'Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band'. Using the traditional methods of wood engraving and letterpress printing, Peter Dean and his team of experts bring to life Lennon's poster. See the finished poster here:


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Tuesday, 16 February 2021

Toby Keith: As Good As I Once Was

Published on July 16, 2009 by Toby Keith
YouTube: Toby Keith - As Good As I Once Was (Official Music Video) (4:32)

She said I seen you in here before
I said I been here a time or two
She said "Hello my name is Bobby Jo,
Meet my twin sister Betty Lou
And we're both feelin' kinda wild tonight
You're the only cowboy in this place
And if you're up for a rodeo
I'll put a big Texas smile on your face"
I said "Girls..."

I ain't as good as I once was
I got a few years on me now
But there was a time, back in my prime
When I could really lay it down
If you need some love tonight
Then I might have just enough
I ain't as good as I once was, but I'm as good once
As I ever was

I still hang out with my best friend Dave
I've known him since we were kids at school
Last night he had a few shots, got in a tight spot
Hustlin' a game of pool
With a couple of redneck boys
One great big fat biker man
I heard David yell across the room
"Hey buddy, how 'bout a helpin' hand"
I said "Dave..."

I ain't as good as I once was
My how the years have flown
But there was a time, back in my prime
When I could really hold my own
If you want to fight tonight
Guess them boys don't look all that tough
I ain't as good as I once was, but I'm as good once
As I ever was

I used to be hell on wheels
Back when I was a younger man
Now my body says "You can't do this boy"
But my pride says "Oh yes, you can"

I ain't as good as I once was
That's just the cold hard truth
I still throw a few back, talk a little smack
When I'm feelin' bullet proof
So don't double-dog dare me now
'Cause I'd have to call your bluff
I ain't as good as I once was, but I'm as good once
As I ever was
May not be good as I once was, but I'm as good once
As I ever was


Wikipedia: As Good as I Once Was
"As Good as I Once Was" is a song co-written and recorded by American country music singer Toby Keith that reached the top of the Billboard Hot Country Songs chart. This song and his 2003 single "Beer for My Horses" are both his longest-running Number One hits, each having spent six weeks at Number One. "As Good As I Once Was" was released in May 2005 as the second single from Keith's album Honkytonk University. Keith wrote the song with Scotty Emerick.

The song was named BMI's song of the Year for 2006. It has since become one of Keith's signature songs, as well as one of his most successful.

Wikipedia: Toby Keith
Toby Keith Covel (born July 8, 1961) is an American country singer, songwriter, actor, and record producer.
Keith has released 19 studio albums, two Christmas albums, and five compilation albums; a total worldwide sales of over 40 million albums. He has charted 61 singles on the Billboard Hot Country Songs charts, including 20 number one hits and 21 additional top 10 hits. His longest-lasting number one hits are "Beer for My Horses" (a 2003 duet with Willie Nelson) and "As Good as I Once Was" (2005), at six weeks each. Keith was awarded the National Medal of Arts by President Donald Trump in a closed ceremony alongside Ricky Skaggs on January 13, 2021.

official web site: Toby Keith

How I discovered this song
When I turned sixty a few years back, I had my eye-opening moment about age and thought about the idea of "I'm not as good as I once was." Somewhere along the way, I heard the entire quote and soon after, discovered the line in the lyrics to the Toby Keith song. Oddly enough, or amusingly enough, I never bothered to look up the song and only just heard it for the first time a few days before making this blog posting. The song's fun, and the video is funny. Mr. Keith doesn't take himself seriously, and I can see why it was a hit for him.

I'm writing this at the age of 68. While I know I'm not as good as I once was, I have to chuckle as to whether I'm even good once as I ever was. It's downhill from here, and my best bet is to slow that slide as much as possible. I'm never going to be forty again. Heck, not even fifty! I must look at life in general and my life specifically with a sense of humour.

Laughing. It beats sobbing uncontrollably.


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Thursday, 28 January 2021

Doerrfeld Trio: You Are

Published on Jan 20, 2015 by Bill Doerrfeld
YouTube: Doerrfeld Trio Performing "You Are" at Tula's in Seattle
Doerrfeld Trio performing "You Are" at Tula's jazz club in Seattle, January 8, 2015. Features Bill Doerrfeld on piano, Damian Erskine on bass, and Tarik Abouzied on drums.


Wikipedia: Bill Doerrfeld
William Doerrfeld (born April 3, 1964 ) is an American classical and jazz pianist and composer. His primary focus is on compositions for classical symphonic orchestra, classical and jazz solo piano, and his fusion piano trio.

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