Sunday, 11 March 2018

Erotic Love


"Erotic love is one of the highest forms of contemplation."
Kenneth Rexroth (1905–1982), American poet, translator and critical essayist




True or false?
"Many women have a deep inner longing to be dominated by a man who’s absolutely obsessed with them." -Unknown




"I long to be subjugated by my desire for you."
Kneeling Man Embracing a Standing Woman by Gustav Vigeland (1869-1943), Norwegian sculptor




Who we are as men and women: What's the science behind our motivations?

Psychology Today - Aug 22/2013
"What Do Women Really Want?" by Noam Shpancer Ph.D.
"Marta Meana, a researcher at the University of Nevada, has argued provocatively that the organizing principle of female sexuality is the desire to be desired."
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"Female desire, according to Meana, is activated when a woman feels overwhelmingly desired, not rationally considered. Female erotic literature, including all those shades of gray, is built on this fantasy. Sexual desire in this view does not work according to our expectations and social values. Desire seeks the path of desire, not the path of righteousness. It thrives not on social order but on its negation. This is one reason all religions and societies try to control, contain, limit and re-direct it."
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"Despite what is commonly believed, then, Meana argues that female sexuality is more self-centered than male’s. Mick Jagger’s lamentations aside, male fantasies focus on giving satisfaction, not on receiving it. Men see themselves in their fantasies bringing the woman to orgasm, not themselves. Women see the man, set aflame by uncontrollable lust for them, bringing them to ecstasy. Men want to excite women. Women want men to excite them. Being desired is the real female orgasm, Meena says."



my blog: Desirability: Don't we all just want to be wanted? Sep 30/2013
Doesn't having somebody want us feel good? Somebody likes our work; somebody admires our clothes. All of these things stroke the ego to a certain extent, however I'm talking more about the primordial: somebody desires us. Yes, relationships consist of many things like commitment, sharing, love, etc., but there is something fundamental to being sexually desired by another human being. This seems to be a basic building block of our character, a part which craves to be longed for. We want to be loved. Our family love us. We want to be admired. Our friends admire us. But we do so want to be the object of somebody's desire.

2018-03-11

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