Saturday 4 December 2010

Sex: 4,3,3,2,2

Kiss 4 times per day; have sex 3 times a week; cuddle 3 times a day; share 2 hobbies and have 2 romantic dinners per month.

Back in March, 2009, the CBC presented an attention getting headline, "Kids, go to the store: poll says thrice weekly sex saves marriages". In this article, they talked of a poll conducted by a British firm called Confetti whose business is wedding planning. The company asked 3,000 adults married 10 years or longer to give their take of what makes up a successful long-term relationship and the consensus was this list of 4, 3, 3, 2, 2.

Of course, some of the comments to the story are amusing.

Doug: 2-1-1-1-2 would be more realistic for me after 38 years of marriage.

KimmieB: i got the numbers right just not in the same order.....1 time every 3 months....LOL

spaceman: Damn, my wife told me it was 3 times a YEAR !

johnp3: I believe that a couple that baths together stays together. If you can stay upset with your wife naked in a bath-tub, you are having troubles.

leftorbust: Cool I guess this is why my marriage is a smashing success, we do it 3 times a year whether we need to or not!!!................Oh, wait, that's 3 times week????.............No, that must be a typo........

UbiquitousOne: Men are like linoleum flooring. If you lay it/him right the first time you can walk all over it/him the rest of your life!


According to About.Com's report on a survey done by Durex, people have sex on an average of 127 times per year or 2.4 times per week.

Wikipedia states: In America, the average frequency of sexual intercourse for married couples is 2 to 3 times a week.

Wow, 2 to 3 times per week? According to The Kinsey Institute there are differences as one moves from age group to age group.


According to StatsCan, the number of divorces in 2003 was 223.7 per 100,000 while it was 58.8 per 100,000 in 1968. That is an increase of 280%.

According to Kinsey:
Nearly all Americans marry during their lifetime, yet close to half of all first marriages are expected to end in separation or divorce, many within a few years and subsequent marriages are even more likely to end.

Final Word
Do I really have a final word? [chuckles] There seems to be advice galore on making it work but the stats seem to show that we are failing to make it work a lot of the time. Obviously we must be introducing a few zeros in our 4, 3, 3, 2, 2. That's a few missing kisses, cuddles and romantic dinners. One plus one equals two but a few 3's and a four could keep the two a two instead of seeing two minus one.


CBC: Kids, go to the store: poll says thrice weekly sex saves marriages - March 4, 2009

About.Com: Marital Sex Statistics

DUXEX: Frequency of Sex vs. Satisfaction Levels

The Kinsey Institute: FAQ: Frequency of Sex

StatsCan: Number of divorces and divorce rate, 1968 to 2003


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